Have you ever been in a situation where you were singing, and even though you had practiced a million times at home, when you got up in front of someone else, your voice started to shake uncontrollably and left you feeling cheated?
I’d like to share an important tool that really works when it comes to singing with confidence.
What many people don't realize, is that having gratitude can actually help you sing better! When I discovered this truth about ten years ago, my ability to feel confident while singing in any situation improved dramatically. This is because when I thought about what I was grateful for, my nervousness turned into excitement and my voice became more open and free. Suddenly, since I was focused on what I had, I realized I actually had something to share, and that took the pressure off.
When we stand on a stage to sing, we are suggesting, "I am worthy of your listening time." The problem arises for most people because they don't feel worthy. They feel like they are being judged and are in a place of lack. However, when we stand in place of gratitude, we are acknowledging what we have graciously received, which puts us in a place of worthiness, and yes, it will give you confidence! Even if you just think about one thing you are grateful for before you sing. You are taking charge of what your mind thinks, and re-patterning your nervous system to do create a safe space from within, to sing from.
Like everything I teach, the Breath of Gratitude is integrative, so the more you do it, the more you’ll be able to access the power of it when you really need it.
Watch this video above and try this before you sing and it will help you any time you need that extra boost of confidence. By acknowledging what you have in difficult situations, it takes your mind off of what is making your nervous – which is usually your fixation on the idea of a worst case scenario that hasn’t even happened yet. Doing this exercise simply helps you do the opposite. You’re thinking of something that lights up your soul! Give it a try and let me know how it goes!
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